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I hope I have something to post in this thread one day but literally nothing so far.![]()
didn't mean to miss this, it'll probably happen when you least expect it bud!
I hope I have something to post in this thread one day but literally nothing so far.![]()
This thread's here if you ever want to air your thoughts/get input/vent some of the pressure any time, Azar.I hope I have something to post in this thread one day but literally nothing so far.![]()
This thread's here if you ever want to air your thoughts/get input/vent some of the pressure any time, Azar.
Fwiw, I was exactly in the same boat as you until very recently, so I reckon I can certainly relate.
I want to make a big long post about my life and how anxiety has destroyed it but my anxiety and embarrassment won't let me!
Hey, are you me?Long story short, I'm 28, still living with mum, no qualifications, never had a job, no friends for last 10 years, no family i can talk to(Only my mum but i don't share my feelings with her). I've lived an incredibly isolated life.
I'm finally feeling some motivation to get out of this situation and work on my confidence, social skills etc and hopefully make a friend or 2, but now Covid is preventing me from making the changes I want to make... It's all very frustrating. I'm feeling slightly excited about the future for the first time but also so much regret that I didn't just do these things sooner.
I have a lot of work to do before anyone wants a relationship with me.
I'm 28 and sadly I've been in two terrible relationships, my first partner was an abuser who made my self esteem plummit and it has led to me having severe anxiety. The only good thing she ever gave me was our daughter but that is the only thing I'm thankful for.
My second relationship wasn't abusive at all but we never really got that close and my daughter hated her. She decided she couldn't "handle these ridiculous panic attacks" and decided just to bail on the relationship.
Maybe one day I will try again but I'm a single dad with a 4 year old to take care of, relationships aren't exactly on my mind.
I really feel for both of you. I hope your daughter is doing well ShadowofTwilight <3 Sorry for not saying anything more than that rn btw I'm just a bit tired but I wanted to acknowledge each of your posts in some way at least.
Someone who shall not be named said:Why would they want to waste their time with someone who literally has no idea what they're doing? 🙃
Not even slightly bad. No-one else should be able to tell you what you want or don't want, especially in the context of a relationship.All my friends say I have to find a girlfriend but I like to be alone, is it bad?
A girl from work asked me out for a date when lockdown ends. I'm not accepting but feel awful in case I upset her.
Problem solved if you don't mind this being shifted to here, RadFem.I don't wanna derail the thread
That's very eye-opening to me because I reckon there's still a perception in some quarters that men ruin relationships by placing too much value on that particular aspect.I used to think I might be asexual during part of my 20s but suspected it was my birth control pills (and possibly my depression as well) making me feel that way and eventually I just stopped taking them (relying on other methods instead) because I needed to know what the cause was and it turned out that it was totally the BC pills. It still horrifies and disturbs me that for the most part neither my friends or any of the medical professionals I talked to really seemed to believe what I said or view my problem as an actual problem. Like I felt miserable and numb and no one really cared or at least no one seemed to have any real understanding. I'm also someone who would never be happy with a relationship no matter how loving it was if the sex wasn't really good. So it's interesting to hear from men who have different perspectives and experiences of that.
Problem solved if you don't mind this being shifted to here, RadFem.
That's very eye-opening to me because I reckon there's still a perception in some quarters that men ruin relationships by placing too much value on that particular aspect.
Or maybe it's not perceived like that anymore and my viewpoint there is perhaps coloured by a bit of lingering insecurity on my part.
Anyhow, it was very refreshing to read your thoughts, RadFem, so thanks for sharing them. My sympathies for what you experienced with friends and with the medical profession as a whole. ☹️
Nothing wrong with that. I really cannot be doing with people who tell other people they are wrong for wanting (or not wanting) particular things from a relationship or a partner. If you’re not feeling it, you’re not feeling it (literally, in this caseI'm also someone who would never be happy with a relationship no matter how loving it was if the sex wasn't really good.
Nothing wrong with that. I really cannot be doing with people who tell other people they are wrong for wanting (or not wanting) particular things from a relationship or a partner. If you’re not feeling it, you’re not feeling it (literally, in this case) and what a lot of preachy people need to get through their skulls is that not everybody wants or needs the same things.