I agree with
@Captaaainuniverse that never using the terms could be detrimental in the long run, never acknowledging your partner as your partner seems like it could only really be bad especially when it gets a bit more serious. That being said I feel constantly using such terms would also be detrimental, to me it shows a decent amount of insecurity, either in yourself your partner your relationship or a mix of all three, it strikes me as a case of if you have to try and stake your claim to everyone all the time then there’s something wrong there. As I’ve said previously I do use such termanologies, of course I do, I just don’t feel the need to go around and enlighten everyone that my partner is my fiancèe. I have enough trust in her and the relationship for random folks to be completely insignificant and everyone but me to be romantically insignificant. Ultimately I guess what I’m saying is I don’t feel the need to constantly remind her and others we are together because well, there’s no need to.
I just want to be clear, I don't
dislike the terms "husband" and "wife" at all, they just "seem" old fashioned to me. Perhaps I've just never actually been able to picture myself calling someone "my husband" before, because I
never thought I'd love someone enough for it to matter what connotations I place on the word. Honestly, it just...never mattered because I
truly at one point wrote myself off as relationship material anyway, so what I thought of the terms was irrelevant. I have a strong feeling though that with the right person it just
wouldn't matter, and I'd be really proud to refer to him as my husband as opposed to "my partner". I mean, heck, when you get married, that's what you become - husband and wife, and obviously I've
no issue with that (although it bothers me that when you are "pronounced" it's as "man and wife"; another "patriarchal" bug-bear of mine with traditional marriage). Maybe as well it's because I've been the observer of my own parent's "relationship" for the longest time, and there's
zero trust and respect; they're just together for the sake of it - even my Dad uses the term "missus"
If there's mutual trust, respect and love there, and a relationship of equals, I'd...yeah, I'd be proud to refer to each other as husband and wife.