Relationships and Romance
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Deleted member 4555
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Nah dude, it's something special to you
I think that's...well, sweetybix! 
Obviously I've made it known here that Neil is also a *whispers* rotten stinky-head sometimes...
*Braces self for imminent ban*
I do refer to him as Stobie Boy occasionally because it's where he's from (Stobswell, Dundee). I do it on purpose to annoy him!
Phobos
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Well... you’ve got to have the odd annoying name!Nah dude, it's something special to you
Obviously I've made it known here that Neil is also a *whispers* rotten stinky-head sometimes...
*Braces self for imminent ban*
I do refer to him as Stobie Boy occasionally because it's where he's from (Stobswell, Dundee). I do it on purpose to annoy him!
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Deleted member 4555
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Indeed, I just assumed it was standard
Phobos
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Indeed it is! But if there’s standard annoying ones does that mean there’s special collectors edition annoying ones too?Indeed, I just assumed it was standard
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Deleted member 4555
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You mean in the same way that there's standard edition EVA 1.11 and collector's edition EVA 1.11?
Neil is already special edition so whatever pet name I apply automatically becomes special edition too! ^^
Phobos
Titan
Precisely like that!You mean in the same way that there's standard edition EVA 1.11 and collector's edition EVA 1.11?
Neil is already special edition so whatever pet name I apply automatically becomes special edition too! ^^
Bonus points go to you because I like the response!
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Deleted member 4555
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Also, how did you all meet your other halves? Any special stories? Any cool stories of how other people you know met up? ^^
Phobos
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Haha. Mines quite a story. Not so much because how more because of who.
Basically my best friend (hes divorced, yes, you can see where this is going) was having some people come over. It was a few folks meeting up for an event. Some were staying at his, others were staying at his ex wife’s. I ended up getting roped into helping meet folks at the station and getting them to where they needed to go. I had no intention of attending the event. Anyhow that went to plan, I ended up taking some to his exwifes place, first time I had been there or even met her. I intended to go home after getting them there but ended up being talked into a drink. So in I went, one thing led to another and now I’m engaged to my best friends exwife. Despite how that could sound it’s all above board and everyone’s happy with the situation, I never knew them as a couple. She was a stranger to me when I turned up at her house. That kind of helps.
Also I’m a claymore now, yay! Much more fitting for cult lewder!
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Haha, it's funny how things pan out isn't it!
The first guy I met was during a works do. I got set up by my colleague who thought we'd get on (how wrong she was). The second two were online dating sites, and the fourth was on a forum (not this one).
It's weird. Last year was really a year I would write off if I could. Everything just seemed to go against me. No friends; having to quit a graphic design job I liked if not for the awful manager and harassment. Losing my beloved cat was the final straw, I really thought that I would never recover from everything that had happened. I had quit my last job in a warehouse due to health reasons, and I was struggling to find any more employment. I genuinely felt like fate was just playing a cruel game and that I wasn't meant to be happy, and it really started to affect me. There was a period over and after Christmas where I genuinely didn't care about anything anymore, and that's out of character for me. I've considered myself to be mentally strong over the years as my confidence has grown, but for me to not even care about what happened, was the lowest I'd felt. My Mum told me to just...take a break over Christmas, and not worry about finding work. So I did that, and tried to just enjoy it as best I could. Into the new year I was just becoming more and more dispondant, and I was at rock-bottom. It was 4 days before my 31st birthday when I decided to reach out in an act of desperation, so I decided to just try joining a forum of like-minded people. I picked this one, and the rest is history. I got chatting to a weird Scottish bloke who found he had much in common with me, so I thought, "eh, he seems decent" ^^
Phobos
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It really is. Just imagine the look on peoples face if in the future I just go “I’m married to my besties ex wife”. It’d be hilarious. It would be great if we could just wipe out time periods we didn’t like though. I’d totally be up for that.Haha, it's funny how things pan out isn't it!
The first guy I met was during a works do. I got set up by my colleague who thought we'd get on (how wrong she was). The second two were online dating sites, and the fourth was on a forum (not this one).
It's weird. Last year was really a year I would write off if I could. Everything just seemed to go against me. No friends; having to quit a graphic design job I liked if not for the awful manager and harassment. Losing my beloved cat was the final straw, I really thought that I would never recover from everything that had happened. I had quit my last job in a warehouse due to health reasons, and I was struggling to find any more employment. I genuinely felt like fate was just playing a cruel game and that I wasn't meant to be happy, and it really started to affect me. There was a period over and after Christmas where I genuinely didn't care about anything anymore, and that's out of character for me. I've considered myself to be mentally strong over the years as my confidence has grown, but for me to not even care about what happened, was the lowest I'd felt. My Mum told me to just...take a break over Christmas, and not worry about finding work. So I did that, and tried to just enjoy it as best I could. Into the new year I was just becoming more and more dispondant, and I was at rock-bottom. It was 4 days before my 31st birthday when I decided to reach out in an act of desperation, so I decided to just try joining a forum of like-minded people. I picked this one, and the rest is history. I got chatting to a weird Scottish bloke who found he had much in common with me, so I thought, "eh, he seems decent" ^^
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It's weird, whilst I really hated last years in terms of how things went, if not for it, I perhaps wouldn't have found my way to this particular forum. I mean, there are other anime forums out there, but I chose this one!
Phobos
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That’s true, if things hadn’t gone as badly for both me and my partner I think we’d have ended up clashing when we met, as it is we both saw straight through each other’s bravado as we were doing exactly the same thing.
We met up due to a Pokémon forum I joined (and he was already a part of). I met some of my closest friends there too, but basically just by being a part of that community and joining in we got talking a lot and gradually got closer. Eventually I realised I’d fallen, hard, for him and attempted to ask various things in an effort to see if he liked me/would ask me out. In the end I declared to my best friend that I would not confess my feelings for 3-5 years (based on various factors which mostly amounted to me being shy), but she kicked my butt and encouraged me to actually make the effort. So one day I impulsively did that, by text, and his phone lost it before he could read it and I completely died inside. He seemed to have picked up the jest and told me he liked me too and asked me out anyway, so it worked out!
Like everything my life was driven by impulse and things going wrong, but it worked out in the end...
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I think when you've both mutually come through a period of c**p, you both appreciate what each other has had to come through, and therefore you appreciate the joy you bring to each other's lives. It was the same for Neil and I; neither of our 2017 were memorable, and for me personally, even the start of my 2016 was pretty rubbish (ex broke up with me 2 weeks after my birthday that year). So began a depressive episode that meant I had to get laid off work. I found another job but it was pretty poor; I managed up until Christmas but after that it was just too much. I was a glorified bin emptier. Coming though last year which is really the worst I've experienced has made me appreciate the little things in life. I'm a humble person by nature, and I really couldn't have asked for more right at this point. It's MORE than I could have wished for honestly! I take each day as it comes, and now I have someone by my side to support me in my endeavours, it really does make the journey so much more exciting; I feel like I can take on anything! It's such a contrast to last year already!
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What about your partner's most endearing qualities then? Special things they do that really matter? Unique little quirks that make you melt?
Phobos
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Not really a special thing here it’s just a little thing. One that isn’t lost on either of us, we both do it for each other. It’s just a little thing that shows we care. If either of us is going to roll a smoke for ourselves we roll one for each other too, though as my partner usually gets to the tin before I do I generally have one ready made for me.What about your partner's most endearing qualities then? Special things they do that really matter? Unique little quirks that make you melt?
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I would say there's probably too much to say here but for me it's the way we're both just so...weird. Like we both just "get the other's weirdness" I literally can just be my whole goofy self with Neil and he just get's it ^^
One of the things though that Neil is so good at is being able to tell stories in a really captivating way. I've often said that he genuinely "belongs on stage as an observational comedian" because he just has this amazing ability to deliver anecdotes in a really visual way. Up until I started speaking with him over the phone I'd never laughed so much in so long; and I mean genuine laughter. He would just...engage me on the phone for ages just reeling off such funny stories; some of them genuine but some of them borne from something real and then he'd just create this whacky and crazy yarn form something so random. I think it goes hand-in-hand with the fact that he's Scottish as well - he has this real dead-pan, sarcastic sense of humour that really suits his story-telling!
He's really observant as well, and he has a real way with words; I think he's really good at analogies and describing things in a metaphorical way. It's something I just can't do (as an artist I draw my stories ^^). But they're truly amazing and endearing qualities about him that I really admire and appreciate.
I think that's also an area where we differ. Neil's way of communicating generally is quite different to mine, yet, it works. Neil is so much more visual and rich in his way of delivering things, and I'm much more direct. Like, I can talk and engage in conversation, but, I tend to "filter out" the unnecessaries to get to the end point in a more direct manner; kind of like taking the path of least resistance.
As for other things, well, I'd be here for ever. I really like the Scottish accent (Neil's is really lovely sounding), and the dialect fascinates me, so he'll deliver some of that to me often over the phone because he knows I enjoy hearing it
I literally can just be my whole goofy self with Neil and he just get's it ^^ One of the things though that Neil is so good at is being able to tell stories in a really captivating way. I've often said that he genuinely "belongs on stage as an observational comedian" because he just has this amazing ability to deliver anecdotes in a really visual way. Up until I started speaking with him over the phone I'd never laughed so much in so long; and I mean genuine laughter. He would just...engage me on the phone for ages just reeling off such funny stories; some of them genuine but some of them borne from something real and then he'd just create this whacky and crazy yarn form something so random. I think it goes hand-in-hand with the fact that he's Scottish as well - he has this real dead-pan, sarcastic sense of humour that really suits his story-telling!
He's really observant as well, and he has a real way with words; I think he's really good at analogies and describing things in a metaphorical way. It's something I just can't do (as an artist I draw my stories ^^). But they're truly amazing and endearing qualities about him that I really admire and appreciate.
I think that's also an area where we differ. Neil's way of communicating generally is quite different to mine, yet, it works. Neil is so much more visual and rich in his way of delivering things, and I'm much more direct. Like, I can talk and engage in conversation, but, I tend to "filter out" the unnecessaries to get to the end point in a more direct manner; kind of like taking the path of least resistance.
As for other things, well, I'd be here for ever. I really like the Scottish accent (Neil's is really lovely sounding), and the dialect fascinates me, so he'll deliver some of that to me often over the phone because he knows I enjoy hearing it
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Totally this. It doesn't even feel forced, it's just natural. People outside listening in would think "wtf?!" but, we just get it