Relationships and Romance

Demelza said:
I’m sure at some point they forget what their actual name is and just work out you’re talking to them because you happen to be in the room and saying some vaguely related to their existence... 😅
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That's what my late cat Neko used to do. I'm pretty sure I could have called him anything and he'd answer!

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Pet names seem like more intimate nicknames, and I'd be cool with that, I hate my name anyway-it's generic and common. 90% of my friends call me by a different name anyway, it's only one letter out but far more memorable
 
Oh yeah my partner and I have a bunch of names for each other. It just has to be done.

In terms of engagement yes I’m engaged, have been since I proposed on my partners birthday. Is there a right time to get engaged? Yes, when you’re both ready and want to. Is there a right time to stay engaged before you get married? Again yes, as long or as short as works for the couple in question. It can be very short or it might never actually happen, just depends what’s right for you.

In regards to the proposal I simply asked her at her party in front of the people there, having being proposed to before (not by me) and that having come up in conversation I had a good idea how she’d enjoy a proposal being made, romantically in front of people. I figured it was meaningless to do it in front of strangers, why would they care about a random person proposing in front of them? So I decided to do it in front of close friends. Also I hid the ring in her birthday present.
 
I think again it's about the couple in question. Is there something that's meaningful to the both of you? A special location of significance to both of you? Are you confident that it's something they'd be comfortable with? I personally wouldn't want one of those proposals that they do in American sports games where you're on the big screen in front of so many. Too much can go wrong, and you're in a compromising position when you're in that situation, especially if you want to say "no"!
 
~AyaMachi~ said:
I think again it's about the couple in question. Is there something that's meaningful to the both of you? A special location of significance to both of you? Are you confident that it's something they'd be comfortable with? I personally wouldn't want one of those proposals that they do in American sports games where you're on the big screen in front of so many. Too much can go wrong, and you're in a compromising position when you're in that situation, especially if you want to say "no"!
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I like my privacy, I wouldn’t appreciate my proposal being broadcast to a tonne of strangers, ultimately I don’t view it as their business whether I propose or not. In regards to the rest, it simply happened to be the right time.
 
Phobos said:
I like my privacy, I wouldn’t appreciate my proposal being broadcast to a tonne of strangers, ultimately I don’t view it as their business whether I propose or not. In regards to the rest, it simply happened to be the right time.
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Likewise, I'm a private person by nature. Also, I don't wear rings at all; I'm not really big on jewellery generally. That said, an engagement ring is probably the exception. I mean, there's something proud in being able to show that you're committed to the one you love, and that's what engagement is, right? To me its says, "you're the one I intend to marry at some point and spend the rest of my life with". Personally as well, some people might think it's daft to be engaged for a lengthly period, but, I really don't see an issue. I think it's down to the couple in question, and their own preferences, and even circumstances. I certainly would rather that than rush into things anyway.
 
~AyaMachi~ said:
Likewise, I'm a private person by nature. Also, I don't wear rings at all; I'm not really big on jewellery generally. That said, an engagement ring is probably the exception. I mean, there's something proud in being able to show that you're committed to the one you love, and that's what engagement is, right? To me its says, "you're the one I intend to marry at some point and spend the rest of my life with". Personally as well, some people might think it's daft to be engaged for a lengthly period, but, I really don't see an issue. I think it's down to the couple in question, and their own preferences, and even circumstances. I certainly would rather that than rush into things anyway.
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Same thoughts over here only I do like some jewellery. With that being said the engagement ring takes pride of place.
 
Also just going back to the pet names, what has been the oddest pet name you have ever given/received? What is your favourite? How did they come about? Clearly only answer as much as you are comfortable sharing here folks! Strangers may be watching. 👀👀
 
I don't wear jewellery simply because I don't own any. If someone gifted me some (and it wasn't tacky) then I'd wear it to signify my appreciation. I'd always worry about losing a ring-it'd have to be properly crammed onto my finger because I'm the kind of twonk who would lose it on my frequent London commutes or something like that.
 
~AyaMachi~ said:
Likewise, I'm a private person by nature. Also, I don't wear rings at all; I'm not really big on jewellery generally. That said, an engagement ring is probably the exception. I mean, there's something proud in being able to show that you're committed to the one you love, and that's what engagement is, right? To me its says, "you're the one I intend to marry at some point and spend the rest of my life with".
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I’m not a huge fan of jewellery either, before we got engaged I didn’t really wear anything except for my watch but since we got my ring I’ve worn it everyday since. It’s definitely because it shows that we are engaged but also because while he’s at work during the day I can look at it and think of him. :3

Also as far as proposals went I did it at home because of the whole not wanting to be the focus of attention thing and also because while I’d thought about doing it at dinner or while we were out that day, I’d gotten myself too nervous and just ended up presenting him with the ring asap... it definitely wasn’t the best way I could have done it or the most romantic, but it’s the thought that counts right? :’D
 
Phobos said:
Also just going back to the pet names, what has been the oddest pet name you have ever given/received? What is your favourite? How did they come about? Clearly only answer as much as you are comfortable sharing here folks! Strangers may be watching. 👀👀
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A guy I worked with years ago used to call me "treacle"... I do not think that I am black and sticky 😑

Demelza said:
but it’s the thought that counts right? :’D
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Definitely! 😊
 
HWR said:
I don't wear jewellery simply because I don't own any. If someone gifted me some (and it wasn't tacky) then I'd wear it to signify my appreciation. I'd always worry about losing a ring-it'd have to be properly crammed onto my finger because I'm the kind of twonk who would lose it on my frequent London commutes or something like that.
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That’s the good thing about rings, as long. As it’s roughly the right size it can be altered to be as tight as you want them to be! I can confidently say none of my rings are coming off unless I want them off.
 
~AyaMachi~ said:
A guy I worked with years ago used to call me "treacle"... I do not think that I am black and sticky 😑


Definitely! 😊
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But are you sweet enough? Hey @Neil.T is @~AyaMachi~ sweet enough to be treacle it is she more golden syrup material?


I have to ask, any idea why he called you treacle? That’s one I wasn’t expecting.

Also @Demelza there needs to be something better than like for your post. I think it’s sweet you think of him via the ring, I do the same for my partner as does does with me.
 
Phobos said:
That’s the good thing about rings, as long. As it’s roughly the right size it can be altered to be as tight as you want them to be! I can confidently say none of my rings are coming off unless I want them off.
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Yeah that's the cushty thing about them. They're not something you want to lose after all.
 
Phobos said:
But are you sweet enough? Hey @Neil.T is @~AyaMachi~ sweet enough to be treacle it is she more golden syrup material?


I have to ask, any idea why he called you treacle? That’s one I wasn’t expecting.
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I'm definitely not sweet enough! ;)

I'm not sure if it was something to do with where he was from. You know, like Yorkshire people use "chuck" or "duck"? He was from Leicester, so, whether it was something to do with that, or whether it was just him personally, I'm not so sure! He was friends with a guy he called "bobble" so, I think it was just him to be honest! 😅

I've never had any pet names in my relationships though up until now. Neil calls me things like "a wee mischievous minx", or a "pure dafty". I find them things really sweet and fun though because they're Scottish, so it's uniquely part of his dialect, and I love that :)

He does have a lot of "Kyon" nose-pinching moments though when he has to deal with my energetic whirlwind nature 😅 But this is the beauty (sorry I know I'm digressing a little here) - our personalities are different, but they compliment each other so well. Neil is the calming and patient influence I need in my life, and I bring him lots of madness and mischief (whether he wants it or not) ;)
 
HWR said:
Yeah that's the cushty thing about them. They're not something you want to lose after all.
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Especially not the ones with sentimental value. I can take losing money, it’s a bummer for sure but not end of the world. Lose something that has sentimental value and you’re not really going to be replacing it. Yes I’m a sentimental bugger.
 
~AyaMachi~ said:
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I'm definitely not sweet enough! ;)

I'm not sure if it was something to do with where he was from. You know, like Yorkshire people use "chuck" or "duck"? He was from Leicester, so, whether it was something to do with that, or whether it was just him personally, I'm not so sure! He was friends with a guy he called "bobble" so, I think it was just him to be honest! 😅

I've never had any pet names in my relationships though up until now. Neil calls me things like "a wee mischievous minx", or a "pure dafty". I find them things really sweet and fun though because they're Scottish, so it's uniquely part of his dialect, and I love that :)

He does have a lot of "Kyon" nose-pinching moments though when he has to deal with my energetic whirlwind nature 😅 But this is the beauty (sorry I know I'm digressing a little here) - our personalities are different, but they compliment each other so well. Neil is the calming and patient influence I need in my life, and I bring him lots of madness and mischief (whether he wants it or not) ;)
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I’m sure he enjoys it deep down. If not you’ll make him come to love it!
 
I completely missed a really special pet name because, well, I've become so used to it I didn't even think to mention it! 😅 He calls me "Milady" as well, which is significant to me because it's what one of the characters from one of my favourite animated franchises refers to his girlfriend as (Hiccup to Astrid in How To Train Your Dragon). Plus, Neil relates to the character on a personal level - he even has the green eyes like Hiccup has 😋

Phobos said:
Is that because he hasn’t wanted to or because you’ve shackled him to something? :p
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I like to think it's because he hasn't wanted to, but then... *hides ball and chain discreetly whilst whistling innocently* 😗 🎵 🎶 🎵 🎶
 
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