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I think that’s the sign of a good relationship, in my opinion anyway. Admittedly I like being able to throw around terms like boyfriend, fiancé etc. but we don’t need them, we’re just us. I guess I use them, not to boast, but because I’m happy with what we have and I like being able to say he’s my partner in crime. I’m just a soppy romantic at heart I guess who has read waaaaay too much shojo lol. I think feeling comfortable enough not to have to say that though means you trust in each other and feel comfortable in the situation, so it’s sweet.
Don't get me wrong, if Neil said to me that he'd like to use those terms, I'd have no issue with it! I guess we've just bungled along like this for this long now without, we've just, not bothered! Weirdly, whilst I'm okay with the terms "boyfriend" and "girlfriend", it's "husband" and "wife" that don't sit too well with me. I've always viewed them as, old fashioned? And whilst I would acknowledge in my mind/heart that it's what we are, I don't know how comfortable I would be using the terms if I was telling other people, for example ("this is my husband..."). I've always envisaged using the term "partner", just because it's...I dunno, I just feel more at ease with the term - it's modern I guess, and it's more inkeeping with my modern attitudes?
I totally get you on not having to use specific terms @~AyaMachi~ thats a very good thing, I do personally enjoy being able to say my partner is my fiancèe however it’s not like I go around introducing her as my fiancèe, first and foremost she’s her and we are what we are. There’s no need to flaunt it but I do take pleasure out of being able to say we are as far in our relationship as we are. Too many we ares there?
Yeah, I guess that's just it - we're secure in ourselves and the relationship to, I dunno, just not have to use those terms. I guess I'm mindful of the fact that it's Neil's first meaningful relationship as well? I mean, heck, I really don't want to feel like I'm putting words into his mouth here because he's totally capable of speaking for himself regarding this and anything else, and maybe sometime he'll give his thoughts, but, for me personally, this is how I see it Plus, he knows he can speak to me at any time