That sounds understandable but leads to another question I have for people: how well would you have to know someone to start a relationship with them?
Hmm, I'd want to know someone fairly well before divulging in such a personal engagement, and I'm not one to rush into things. I mean I've spent 20 years of my miserable-but-fairly-lax existence single so I could afford to build a connection before a relationship.
*deleted text* I suppose knowing each other online is fine, many times that's how it's started for my brothers and me. I didn't know my sister at the time, my brother was a bit of a lady's man back in the day, I did get my post deleted since someone thought I was saying women were awful or something, I would say people are awful but that's just me not liking people in general, my brothers have had to end things with girls who really were awful, anyway, back to the story, my brother was being played about with this one girl and well pretty much ended up alone, as depressed as you might think, my sister tells him if he doesn't do anything to try meeting up with her soon he'll miss his chance, as I've said she's my sister now, so that worked out. I still think the members I've mentioned should at least think about meeting up, or just ignore me if they have, keeping in touch is great but it does feel more realistic if you feel the same in each other's company. You can make someone laugh online but it won't really work if you can't stand to be in the same room for 5 minutes. Once, my parents caught me chatting to a girl online, 8 told them she's my girlfriend they both laughed at me, like, really loud.
Sometimes things just work out that way and it's nice that it can happen.
), but if you're connected in terms of values and general outlook on life, as well as principles, that kind of stuff is difficult to just dismiss and let fall by the wayside. I wasn't looking for anything when I came here; I've been happy as a singleton and was in no rush to be with anyone, not just because of the state of mind I was in at the time, but because I genuinely didn't want anything beyond friendship, and I made that clear. I really didn't feel like I was relationship material, largely because I consider myself to be so unconventional as opposed to the rest of society that, who would want to be with me anyway? But when you come across someone who shares the same unconventional views about certain things as you, it's a positive sign that can't be ignored.
My floor needs hoovering!
. Maybe it's in my realistic and pragmatic nature to just "go for it" with something like this - I do very much live for the moment, and you never know what tomorrow will bring and well, if there's something you wanna say, then say it! For me, I'm just happy that I know for sure it's how I feel, because I'm not in the habit of saying things I don't mean regarding more serious matters. Even for me, someone who's not even sappy and romantic!
I think the answer to all of the things you said there is that its different for different people. Just figure out what works for you and enjoy itI really do think though that there are different ways of expressing the sentiment that suit different people, and you do it in a way that's comfortable to you
Totally, I think it's why I knew long before I "knew" if that makes sense, we'd expressed it more through actions and caring gestures
I just wanted to keep adding to this thread and I'm genuinely curious to know people's thoughts
That’s true, for me personally I get more out of it if someone else or I shows their affection through actions. Don’t get me wrong, I like the words too I just prefer actions, even if they’re little ones. Just don’t overdo the actions otherwise I tend to think it’s an egostroke rather than anything else.I think the answer to all of the things you said there is that its different for different people. Just figure out what works for you and enjoy it
Sentimentality is a good thing in my book, hell just look at my posts in here, I’m a sentimental bugger. I also find myself curious about others views on things like this, hence why I also like to add to this thread. Maybe we should rename it the romance thread.Totally, I think it's why I knew long before I "knew" if that makes sense, we'd expressed it through actions and caring gestures
Apologies if I've gone a bit too sentimental or anything
I was only being part serious with that comment but thanks for the update, that gives us a bit more scope for discussion!Done.
Haha, thanks
I guess by nature I'm not usually sappy or sentimental, but it far from means that I don't care. I just have my own way of expressing this kind of stuff that's comfortable for me. I mean, when I get on Neil's last nerve, I do it with love The public "rows" on this forum show that we care (deep, deep down) I never used to be overly keen on too much physical contact. That said, I think it's more to do with PDA. I'm all for showing that you're proud to be with your partner in public, but, there's a time and a place to be eating each other's faces off, surely
I completely agree, cuddles with someone you care for are awesome things. Hugs from someone you don’t care about, they’re just awkward. Everyone has their own way of showing affection and that’s all good, whatever works for people well, works for them. In regards to public displays I have no qualms with some displays of affection (also what strictly counts as public anyway? Does the amount of affection deemed acceptable depend on where you are and who’s around?) others on the other hand I can’t get behind, an extreme example would be physical acts where there’s a decent possibility of a child seeing. An example would be in the car park of a park or in the park itself, that’s a no go for me. Have a cuddle there? No problem. To answer my own questions in the brackets up there, I do personally think what is ok depends where you are, the public one can be harder to answer. Is it “public” if you have a party in your house? Is it public if for instance you’re on a nudist beach? Is it still public if you’re out and about but somewhere where here’s only you two around? Ie let’s say a room in a workplace but that is empty apart from the parties involved. Either way I feel like I’m going off on a bit of a tangent here. Basically I have no issue with showing or seeing some acts of affection anywhere, a couple of these examples would be giving your partner a peck on the cheek etc, holding hands that kind of thing. Don’t really want to see people snogging whilst I’m eating or generally just out and about.Haha, thanks
I'm a sucker for cuddles and stuff though
I think what I'm referring to is just a general public setting, like a bus station, a busy street, somewhere where you're conscious of there being lots of people around but lacking the awareness to kind of, just be mindful that some displays (in my opinion), are best kept behind closed doors. I admit that, if it's in a setting like a club, where that sort of atmosphere fuels more intimate and primal behaviour, that's perhaps different (so long as you're sensible and responsible obviously), but since I don't go out to those places, it's not something that I see anyway. But things like hand holding, a wee hug/kiss, I have no issues with, just general sweet gestures that show your level of comfort in displaying that you're proud to be seen with your partner
