Relationships and Romance

I shall ask something closer to the topic though....
becoming bespecled, what do you think my chances are?
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HWR said:
I'm no expert on attraction towards dudes with glasses, but I have a soft-spot for a woman in glasses, maybe other females have the same preference?
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For me it depends on the person in question and the style of glasses. Some occasions they can really enhance the attractiveness other times they detract. Either way I’m more a sucker for long hair.
 
HWR said:
I'm no expert on attraction towards dudes with glasses, but I have a soft-spot for a woman in glasses, maybe other females have the same preference?
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I know what you mean ^.^ nothing sexier than a girl pulling off a fancy pair of specs!
I haven't heard of it the other way around though, only person I can think of to ask now is @~AyaMachi~ psst... I don't think @Neil.T wears specs ;) (insert some B.S "real men wear specs" here)
only on the topic of specs themselves though, while having them on today is pretty consistent, I've started noticing how bad my eyes really are without them - the world nearly disappears!
 
Phobos said:
For me it depends on the person in question and the style of glasses. Some occasions they can really enhance the attractiveness other times they detract. Either way I’m more a sucker for long hair.
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Yeah I agree, forgot to mention that actually
 
Captaaainuniverse said:
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I know what you mean ^.^ nothing sexier than a girl pulling off a fancy pair of specs!
I haven't heard of it the other way around though, only person I can think of to ask now is @~AyaMachi~ psst... I don't think @Neil.T wears specs ;) (insert some B.S "real men wear specs" here)
only on the topic of specs themselves though, while having them on today is pretty consistent, I've started noticing how bad my eyes really are without them - the world nearly disappears!
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So you glad you went for the eye test in the end and got glasses? :p
 
To bring us slightly back on topic and because I wanted to reply to this even though it was two pages ago...

~AyaMachi~ said:
In addition, I really don't like ceremonies - I hate fuss and being the centre of attention, so the idea that the focus is on the bride and her "big day" really isn't something I like the idea of. Also, everything that ties in with weddings doesn't suit me - the hen/stag does, the reception where Aunty Sue gets rat a***d and Uncle Dave can't dance...nah, not for me! I'm not a hugely family oriented person anyway, and when you read/hear stories about family feuds and in-laws from hell, I just think, is it really worth it? 😅
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This pretty much sums up my feelings on marriage as well to be honest. Although me and my partner have been engaged for going on three years now I've been stalling on the idea of a wedding for awhile (not that he minds) simply because I can't really be bothered with the social aspect of it. If I had it my way I wouldn't have anyone but me and him present, but then you run into the problem of needing someone to witness it, so we'd probably end end up inviting his mum at least (who I get on with fine) and then I'd want someone on my side and then when does it stop? ;_; Not helped by the fact I am not on speaking terms with any of my family, so I'd invite my closest friends but even then I hate being the centre of attention too so the whole reception idea just makes me cry inside and run for the hills.

At some point we'll need up going through with it just for more boring practical reasons, but I guess I'm happy where we are right now. I used to really like the idea of getting married, too, but as I got older I guess I thought about it more realistically and about all the hassle that came with it and decided the idea sounds like it'll melt my brain. Even though it was even me who proposed to him, I realise that I just wanted a bit more commitment (not that either of us weren't!) and so for now I guess my heart is content.

This is a really interesting topic btw so I'm glad it was brought up. ^^
 
Demelza said:
To bring us slightly back on topic and because I wanted to reply to this even though it was two pages ago...



This pretty much sums up my feelings on marriage as well to be honest. Although me and my partner have been engaged for going on three years now I've been stalling on the idea of a wedding for awhile (not that he minds) simply because I can't really be bothered with the social aspect of it. If I had it my way I wouldn't have anyone but me and him present, but then you run into the problem of needing someone to witness it, so we'd probably end end up inviting his mum at least (who I get on with fine) and then I'd want someone on my side and then when does it stop? ;_; Not helped by the fact I am not on speaking terms with any of my family, so I'd invite my closest friends but even then I hate being the centre of attention too so the whole reception idea just makes me cry inside and run for the hills.

At some point we'll need up going through with it just for more boring practical reasons, but I guess I'm happy where we are right now. I used to really like the idea of getting married, too, but as I got older I guess I thought about it more realistically and about all the hassle that came with it and decided the idea sounds like it'll melt my brain. Even though it was even me who proposed to him, I realise that I just wanted a bit more commitment (not that either of us weren't!) and so for now I guess my heart is content.

This is a really interesting topic btw so I'm glad it was brought up. ^^
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On this note, if you did choose to get married and didn’t want the attention or to invite people there’s always the option of just asking a couple strangers who happen to be at hand to act as witnesses isn’t there? It’d solve the attention thing as ultimately they wouldn’t care and also would solve inviting people as ultimately no one from either side was invited and there’s no need for a reception that way I guess.
 
Phobos said:
On this note, if you did choose to get married and didn’t want the attention or to invite people there’s always the option of just asking a couple strangers who happen to be at hand to act as witnesses isn’t there? It’d solve the attention thing as ultimately they wouldn’t care and also would solve inviting people as ultimately no one from either side was invited and there’s no need for a reception that way I guess.
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I’d be more willing to go down that route but I think it would ultimately lead to hurt feelings on his family’s side (and with my closer friends), which I would feel guilty about in the end. I think the guilt would outweigh the joy of escaping the social commitment otherwise unfortunately:p
 
Demelza said:
I’d be more willing to go down that route but I think it would ultimately lead to hurt feelings on his family’s side (and with my closer friends), which I would feel guilty about in the end. I think the guilt would outweigh the joy of escaping the social commitment otherwise unfortunately:p
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I can understand that. In this scenario I don’t think there’s an ideal scenario for everyone to get everything. Life is complicated.
HWR said:
Mine had that effect on me, and now it's hard to imagine how I'd adjust should my prescription need to be changed.
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It could always be worse, you could have some kind of eye condition that renders glasses useless to you. I’d rather go with the queasiness, personally.
 
Demelza said:
I’d be more willing to go down that route but I think it would ultimately lead to hurt feelings on his family’s side (and with my closer friends), which I would feel guilty about in the end. I think the guilt would outweigh the joy of escaping the social commitment otherwise unfortunately:p
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Go to Vegas, get married, come back and say you did it drunkenly 😉
 
Captaaainuniverse said:
not sure if you've just made a spectrum joke or not, but I also feel like a man of niche interests. if I knew there were people like you guys around me, maybe I wouldn't feel like I'm the only one who has my kind of interests, but all you see of most people around me is sports (not a sports guy myself) and probably a booze filled enjoyable night out with as many people as possible, seems like the complete opposite to me. If I was in a relationship I wouldn't mind a night out with just the girlfriend
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I literally meant that I'm on the spectrum in relation to a common trait being having specific subjects you enjoy, some to an almost obsessive extent. That being said I do on occasion joke about my Autism, though I restrain myself on this forum in case it upsets or offends anyone.

And I get you with the whole personal night out with just your girlfriend, I tend to prefer spending time with just one or two people on occasion as opposed to the more frequent clubbing lifestyle that students my age tend to involve themselves in.
 
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