I don’t really want to make Vash overthink this any more than he is already, but I’d say that’s VERY dependent on people’s personalities and attitudes. I had a family member who was in a relationship that sounds very much like yours Neil, they would definitely talk or message every day. And that’s wonderful, if that’s the kind of person you are and the kind of relationship you enjoy.I reckon no. I asked my girlfriend about this, too, and she thought the same. (We're still long-distance at this time, ever since meeting on this very forum.) She says that the time difference between Japan and the UK must play a factor, but reckons that unless it's a mutually agreed thing, it'd be unusual to not check in with at least a quick message each day. By mutually agreed, she means that, say, if you'd been chatting a lot lately and both just fancied a bit of breathing space, for example.
However. Would I do that? No. Definitely not. As much as I might love someone, I don’t feel the need to be in constant contact with them. It’s not uncommon for me to go for months without speaking to a member of my family. Do I love them? Yeah. Might they like me to be in more regular contact? Yeah, I’m pretty sure they would. But do I actually feel like speaking to them if I don’t really have anything to say? No. I’m not one for small talk. I don’t really enjoy regurgitating the details of what I’ve been doing day to day and to be brutally honest, I’m not really that interested in the mundane things other people are doing either. If there are practical things to talk about or I want to share and discuss ideas and opinions, I love that. Otherwise I'm comfortable with my own thoughts and don't really need the distraction of discussing what, to me, seem quite insignificant things.
I know a lot of people do like that stuff, and do things like talk about their day with each other every night when they get home; I'm willing to concede that my dislike of this behaviour probably makes me a bit abnormal. But I do exist, and I presume other people with similar attitudes must also exist, though we're probably not the easiest people to conduct relationships with, especially not with people who do enjoy that constant attention or engagement. To someone like you Neil (or to Vash perhaps) an attitude like mine might seem a bit cold or distant. But I'm absolutely still capable of loving and caring about people, just in my own way. So while I don't really wish to colour Vash's judgment one way or the other (mainly because I'm not personally familiar with the person he's been communicating with) I'm not sure taken by itself lack of communication should have much read into it at all.