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Kite

Thousand Master
st_owly said:
My dissertation has been accepted to present at the Popular Culture Association's annual conference in Seattle next spring.

Congrats :)

Two good fights later (lots of legroom in Qatar 777s) I'm in the land of the rising sun, feeling just a tad tired, but eating pocky to give a mild sugar boost.
 

Animefreak17

Godhand
I am so angry :evil:

Today I got my battery charger and battery today for my camera and I decided to make my videos..... but then guess what.

Today is my moms day off, usually I go out do my papers for 3 - 4 hours sometimes with my dog I come back and then I clean the house then I usually watch my anime.....BUT

my mom is such a freaking pain when it comes to cleaning up.. sure I know I have to help out... I mean it comes with the territory of course.......BUT

when I go to my room to make my videos.. guess what happens

She asks me to do odd jobs that doesn't even need to be done and when I do get a chance she's always talking loud so I can't do anything without there being background noise and I can't concentrate.

I don't mean to sound sexiest why are some woman so difficult to live with.... I mean is it wrong to be left to your own devices.

I have so much I want to say in my videos......

Which characters I don't like and why.
Response videos.... particularly to HoD
My response to the partnership that will turn anime fans in to criminals
My unboxing videos
My true story on how I got my family to have a change of heart on anime
My top 10-20s
............

I mean is it wrong for me to do this.... I want to help out the anime community and get people to listen to my points of view and how I see things.

I want to be a anime reviewer... I want to do this.... but the distractions keeps me from doing any of this....

Walk the dogs
Go to the shop
Go do my papers for a few hours
Get house clean.... messes that I haven't even made
Do odd jobs
.......it gets worse when you have a demanding mother that keeps you on your toes
Loud chatter
The tv or music is loud
The dogs sometimes.fight
The phone rings..... no seriously it rings a lot in our house

If this happened to me every single day.... I'd go nuts but it happens regularly.... not everyday but regularly

I wish I could just move out.... but sadly I don't have that sort of cash to do so.... also my funds for my hobby would be slashed more then half... lol

Sorry I just had to get that off my chest... an I feel a bit better now.
 

Chaz

Chuunibyou
AF - There's nothing wrong with ambition and wanting to give back to something you like. It's also something you like doing too.
But do you understand how difficult it is to find time to have a full-time job (not just the 9-5 traditional shifts) and to look after a house and find leisure time for yourself? It is a full-time job on-top of another - and when you're going to think about building another part of the family, what about finding time with your spouse or raising a kid?

The way I see it, the priority should be:
Food/bills > Job sustainability > House clean/maintain > Family commitments > Hobbies/Friend events.

At the moment, I don't see your reviews channel and such as a money-maker business. It lines more towards your hobbies and that should be the thing you focus on after everything else. Like in school, you do your homework, clean your room and maybe even make your sandwiches before the next school day. Buying anime, watching it and reviewing seems like something you want to do that should be done in spare time. But the reality is that you won't be able to have that much spare time after everything else.
You can't blame your mum to want to get you prepped for the future. You have pets to look after as well, so that's more family to consider. Sorry to say, but even with the small time you have put aside for yourself, you need to realise that even those times can be disrupted.

But - Maybe you should have a sit-down with your mum. I mean, have you explained to her that some of the things she does disrupts the recordings? She might not even understand how much it does distract you or how clearly it comes off in the recording. At the flip-side, recording videos is something that demands solitude. Living in a small house and thin walls will be asking a lot when you're sharing a house with others. This is something that needs compromising or you will both be at each other in the long-term. If there's respect between you, she'll listen (may not agree though) and try to find a solution with you.

But if you buy a lot of anime, watch all of that, record and edit videos and keeping up-to-date with news and forums - You may be biting-off-more-than-you-can-chew with the limited time you have.
 

Rui

Karamatsu Boy
Administrator
animefreak17 said:
i was writing something but i had to go and saved it in drfts how do i get to it to respond to you

I have never used this feature but apparently they are stored here: ucp.php?i=ucp_main&mode=drafts

I am trying to resist commenting on how one person's actions apparently make all women difficult to live with ;p

R
 

Animefreak17

Godhand
Chaz said:
AF - There's nothing wrong with ambition and wanting to give back to something you like. It's also something you like doing too.
But do you understand how difficult it is to find time to have a full-time job (not just the 9-5 traditional shifts) and to look after a house and find leisure time for yourself? It is a full-time job on-top of another - and when you're going to think about building another part of the family, what about finding time with your spouse or raising a kid?

The way I see it, the priority should be:
Food/bills > Job sustainability > House clean/maintain > Family commitments > Hobbies/Friend events.

At the moment, I don't see your reviews channel and such as a money-maker business. It lines more towards your hobbies and that should be the thing you focus on after everything else. Like in school, you do your homework, clean your room and maybe even make your sandwiches before the next school day. Buying anime, watching it and reviewing seems like something you want to do that should be done in spare time. But the reality is that you won't be able to have that much spare time after everything else.
You can't blame your mum to want to get you prepped for the future. You have pets to look after as well, so that's more family to consider. Sorry to say, but even with the small time you have put aside for yourself, you need to realise that even those times can be disrupted.

But - Maybe you should have a sit-down with your mum. I mean, have you explained to her that some of the things she does disrupts the recordings? She might not even understand how much it does distract you or how clearly it comes off in the recording. At the flip-side, recording videos is something that demands solitude. Living in a small house and thin walls will be asking a lot when you're sharing a house with others. This is something that needs compromising or you will both be at each other in the long-term. If there's respect between you, she'll listen (may not agree though) and try to find a solution with you.

But if you buy a lot of anime, watch all of that, record and edit videos and keeping up-to-date with news and forums - You may be biting-off-more-than-you-can-chew with the limited time you have.

true true but thank god I don't have a wife or kids

my brother lives with my grandparents
my sister lives with her man
my sister can take care of her self more or else

its straight forward

thing is my mother is very difficult and makes a big deal out of everything

I have been saving a bit of money on the side for the whole year for board for the whole year

i always do everything that needs to be done before my hobby so i can get right back to it that's how passionate i am.

of course you don't see reviews its actually my first time and I'm working on one right now i want to get right in to it...... hell iv started to get used to hearing my self talk and that's no easy feet ... i had to get used to that.

i finished collage so no more home work.... yay

I'm just angry that i had all this passion in one day and had to drive to do it but lost it all in one day.... but i managed to get it done by going somewhere quiet

its not that she wants to prep me but wanting me to clean up after everyone .... which isn't my mess...... how would you feel if your siblings made a mess and you HAD to clean it up.... or that your mother got a dog and she wanted it and then your the one who has to walk it..... every single day.

I'm not complaining because I'm helping out ...... I'm complaining because they throw others responsibility on me... which is unfair.... hell i have to to look after my sisters new dog too by making sure it doesn't mis behave ........ sure collage is one thing but going out with her friends is unfair while she wanted the damn thing and pays no attention to it.

i have giant afrcan land snails and they are my responsibility so i understand looking after something you wanted....... looking after others pets that they wanted is unfair...... i love the husky his so cute but its not my responsibility.... if was to have a baby i wouldn't just throw it on my parents to look after.... i would genually take responsibility and raise it my self because it is mine.......

or if i had my own dog...( the german shepaerd belongs to my sister, the husky belongs to my mum and the staff belongs to my dad)
if i had my own i would look after it because its my responsibility i wouldn't say..... oh would you feed him or would you walk him oh would you discipline him.

i really wanted my own hybreed husky german shepared but after the game we go though to look after what is supposed to be my sisters responsibility its made me think that it would be to much of a hassle because I'm always busy I'm always doing other things....... that's whats bothering me.....

its people in this house who don't look after what belongs to them or cleaning up their own messes.

sure il help maintaining the house but i wont clean up after someone who just had a party that i didn't take part in.... its like that....

lets say you went on holiday for 2 weeks and you asked a friend or a sibling to look after the house and the animals then you go you have a good time then you come back and find out that the house is a complete mess

beer bottles everywhere
rubbish everywhere
the dogs keep barking for food
and there is writing on the wall

its like someone had a party there

and your angry because you just got back from your good time and now you have to chew out who ever made this mess and if they don't clean it up you have to because they bail on you....... ok this wouldn't happen to me but keep listening

so you have to clean the mess your friend made.... sure its your house but its not your mess.

its the same in my house if someone makes a mess i clean it up which isn't fair because if i make a mess i clean it up.

get it

and yes i know i will be disturbed which is why i try to find the best time possible to do my recording when I'm alone.

actually i never thought about that.... i would always assume that she would think it was something that isn't important ..... but this is the woman who stood up for me when my dad said that anime is stupid Chinese cartoon ..... this is when she watched

death note
basilisk
moribito
FMA
wolfs rain
vampire knights
wolf childen
ganketsuou
romeo and Juliet
and many more

she stood up and said it wasn't stupid and was really enjoyable .......if she is willingly to give my hobby ago maybe she will understand if i explain it to her and what it means to me..........yeah your right il have a word with her tonight.

the thing is i have difficulties concentrating... it happened in school and collage and i needed help and it was a problem for me i didn't take any interest in what they wanted me to do... not because i didn't want to but because it was hard for me to understand or there was something else on my mind or i was being distracted by something or someone ..... I'm one of those people who needs silence and no distractions .... hell when i was editing my videos last night i went and played a game of yugioh online..... its not like i wasn't enjoying editing it but sometimes i need a brake from what I'm doing you know.

the thing is I'm one of those people who just does there jobs because its a job..... it isn't something i enjoy but something that needs to be done but after I'm done with all that i go and do my own thing ... something that i really enjoy

watch anime
watch youtube videos
edit my videos
talking on here with you guys on subjects
playing with my new cam
play a game time and again


this is what gets me motivated ....... the things i like to do the things that i love doing

don't get me wrong i also love my family

my brother
my sisters
my mom
dad
uncle and ante
cousins
grandparents
the dogs

il do anything for them anything.

but sometimes you want your alone time doing the things that yyour family wouldn't get..... sure i opened my mom and dads eyes to anime but they aren't in to it like me

my mom watches it once and a while with me .. sometimes every night because she enjoyes it
i got my dad to understand why i like anime .... he doesn't like it like i do or my mom but at least i got him to understand what anime is and why i like it....... and now he doesn't say...

oh his watching those Chinese cartoons again
oh his watching cartoon porn again.....( i have no idea where he got this idea from i don't own any hentai maybe he saw a image on the internet or something )

but now i don't hear him say anything bad about my hobby anymore in fact he asked time and again what i have been watching lately in conversations..... his not intrested in anime but at least i got him to open up.

maybe i shouldn't complain so much about not getting enough time to make my vidoes .... maybe i should just watch a litte bit of anime and do abit of my vidoes.... you know balance it out abit

well you know what they say...... you live and learn

ok thanks a bunch i have learned abit talking to you i do appreciate it
 

Demelza

Adventuring Alchemist
AUKN Staff
Definitely get where you're coming from and quite honestly moving away from home and in with my partner was the best choice I ever made. My situation was fairly different, but I think in a lot of respects once you become an adult a lot more is expected of you in terms of up-keep of the home and looking after family/pets etc. even if they weren't meant to be your responsibility. I don't mind this really, but I got to the point where I wanted my own place and my own freedom to look after my own responsibilities by my own rules. I think this is probably something everyone gets to eventually to be honest, although me and my mothers personalities clashed horribly so there was more than just upped responsibilities for me to want to move out. :p

---

First free weekend in ages! Gonna drop a few hours into Persona 3 I think. :)
 

Vashdaman

Za Warudo
played a game of yugioh online

I didn't think there was a person alive without Japanese blood coursing through their veins who actually understood how to play YuGiOh :!: Or are you doing what I used to do on the GBA YuGiOh game and just press random buttons while hoping for the best. I suspect that's even what the Japanese do too. Even YuGi seems to make up the rules as he goes along in the show. That's the magic of the whole thing, it's really a total practice in imagination, a game with seemingly impenetrable set of rules, but really there are none. In that sense YuGiOh is the best metaphor for real life anime has ever had.
 

IncendiaryLemon

Captain Karen
In the show, sure, but real Yu-gi-oh isn't like that at all. There is strategy and a lot of skill in building decks with cards that work well with each other. It's also pretty easy to understand. I've played a lot of it, most recently on the new PS4 game and it's very fun.
 

Kite

Thousand Master
Silly question number 24, any idea who this character is and what show she is from?




(My tour of Japan has taken me out of Tokyo, over the mountains to the west coast at Toyama via Matsumoto & Zenkoji Temple)
 

Rui

Karamatsu Boy
Administrator
The flag is for Plum's 'Shinshuu Ueda' Komatsuhime, a local mascot of sorts based on a historical figure. As far as I know she isn't from a show. I believe the girl in the big shot is actually Suwahime rather than Komatsuhime (going by the label on the top picture). She's also a local mascot from the Nagano area so I'm guessing you took your pictures somewhere in your recent travels.

This is roughly where my knowledge ends as the only reason I know her is that you included the name in the picture and I have an interest in Sengoku-era history ^^;

R
 

Kite

Thousand Master
Taken at a service station this morning between Tokyo & Lake Suwa, looked like it came from an anime, took an interest as she looked interesting.
 

Joshawott

Monsieur Monster
AUKN Staff
Random question: If I'm looking to import a video game from Australia, where's the best place to order from? I kinda want to pre-order a copy of Yo-Kai Watch.
 

Demelza

Adventuring Alchemist
AUKN Staff
When I bought my New 3DS XL I bought it from Mighty Ape. Service was really good so I'd suggest them. Otherwise I guess PlayAisa might get a few Australian copies of the game in?
 

-Danielle-

Death Scythe
AF do your siblings work? If they do and you don't then I'm guessing your Mums shoving it all on your for some sort of fair family balance as they'll be contributing financially.

If however they're unemployed like you then yeah it's not fair, you should clean after you and help her with some of her work, not your siblings.

Chaz makes good points, food, bill paying and job stability come first. Hobbies come last. I never really get to go out, splurge on loads of stuff like I'm always seeing you do as I have bills, a mortgage and have to pay for food in an out of work etc etc. I'm only 27 so yeah I wish I could be selfish whilst I'm young and do and buy what I want.

I'd kill to be able to just do my hobbies and nothing else but the world doesn't work that way and an easy life isn't a valid life choice for people who don't want to live off the government. If I was still jobless my Mum would be making me clean up so I'm working for the life she provides, a roof, food etc. She only changed me £160 month when I lived at home jobless.
 

Animefreak17

Godhand
-Danielle- said:
AF do your siblings work? If they do and you don't then I'm guessing your Mums shoving it all on your for some sort of fair family balance as they'll be contributing financially.

If however they're unemployed like you then yeah it's not fair, you should clean after you and help her with some of her work, not your siblings.

Chaz makes good points, food, bill paying and job stability come first. Hobbies come last. I never really get to go out, splurge on loads of stuff like I'm always seeing you do as I have bills, a mortgage and have to pay for food in an out of work etc etc. I'm only 27 so yeah I wish I could be selfish whilst I'm young and do and buy what I want.

I'd kill to be able to just do my hobbies and nothing else but the world doesn't work that way and an easy life isn't a valid life choice for people who don't want to live off the government. If I was still jobless my Mum would be making me clean up so I'm working for the life she provides, a roof, food etc. She only changed me £160 month when I lived at home jobless.

Well
My sister is in collage and still getting poket money
My other sister lives with her man.... who is a good for nothing
My brother is the only one who has his head screwed on tight... but lives with my .... poor grandmother.... his not giving her any problems but she is poorly.
I give my mom plenty of my cash from my rounds so it's not a financial problem.

It's not about money... It's about responsibility

We have 3 dogs
1 Is my moms
2 is my sister
3 is my dad's

They push their responsibility of looking after them on me.. which isn't fair

My mom got rabbits and she asks me to feed them even tho she wanted them.... but it's mostly my sisters job.

I don't even make Any mess in the house I'm usually in my room ether

Watching anime

Figuring out how to make reviews on my cam..... which by the I'm getting a new one because it was clicking in my videos.

Or talking to you guys or on MAL.

It's just me and my sister now...... who by the way is more of a pain then me.... you can ask my parents your self ans they would say I'm no trouble.

Now don't get me wrong I do

clean the house every morning
And
I do walk out husky every day....... which is no easy feet considering huskys have a lot of energy.... seriously I take him on my rounds and its a pain in the ass to keep him in line while posting my papers and riding the bike..... I don't mind walking him because I love him .... his like an annoying little brother which you can't help but love.

I believe that while your alive you should enjoy your self because you don't know what might happen...... think about it

You might get run over by a car and die
The end of the world could happen tomorrow
You might find out you have a illness that will take you
You might get dragged in to a war
You might get killed by a killer or terrorist
Anything might happen......

Which is why I say........live how you want do what ever you want because once your dead it's all over.

Mortgages
Paying off a car
Pets
All that stuff your paying with your hard earned money.... while your paying that off anything could happen to them or like I said the future is uncertain ....

You could be enjoying your self doing what you want to do....

Sure
Bill's
And food

I understand but spending all your cash on all that stuff is just.... just wrong.

While your working hard to earn cash to pay off all those things... do you know what rich people are doing.....

Going on holiday while you work for them to.

I'm one of those people who puts his happiness first and enjoy him self ... again sure bills an food I get it I really do.... but when you have worked long hours and dealing with crap at home... Your wasting your time .... you can't live forever.... I like to think about the now instead of tomorrow and if tomorrow happens that tomorrow will be my today... for me it's all about the now... I do everything on a whim an do it with no regrets.

I also take on fewer responsibilities so that way I can do what ever I want because again today is important then thinking about the future... because in the words of the greatest anime charecter ever....

whatever happens happens *spike spegal* taking it one day at a time.

Now il say this

I help out I really do and pay board

It's when people make a mess and I'm expected to clean it up
And
When people have responsibilities like...

A baby
A dog
Rabbits
You get what I'm saying other responsibilities.

It's unfair that I should look after something that I didn't want....

Let's say I got a ..... I don't know a cat or a dog because I wanted one and then after a while I got my sister or brother to walk it and feed it AND give it attention .... would that be fair on them?

All I'm saying is that people should take responsibility on things that belong to them ......my saying is this

If it belongs to you you look after it
If you want something you get it
If want something done you do it...... unless someone else had a hand in it too of course.

I'm just pissed that because
these things aren't my responsibility.
And
The mess isn't my doing.

But I will help out because I should but not take responsibility for other peoples responsibilities.

I mean you wouldn't clean up your sisters party mess when you had nothing to do it..... would you.

Happiness comes first and foremost and nothing else.
 

Demelza

Adventuring Alchemist
AUKN Staff
Personally, I've always viewed animal responsibilities as something a bit different really. When I was at home my mother (and to an extent my little bother) had a lot of different animals, but I was the one who pretty much looked after them the majority of the time. Although yes I did dislike this sometimes, I didn't really complain as even if they were a pet someone else brought into the house, I think as long as you're a part of the household then they're as much your responsibility as anyone else's in the house. On my part I did look after the animals as a way of paying for my keep as I wasn't bringing any money into the household, but my original point is something I still kinda stand by where animals are concerned. :)

I do get where you're coming from though and I'd suggest talking to your mum as looking after that many animals AND a lot of the general upkeep for the household is something that perhaps should be better balanced. What everyone else has already said isn't untrue though, work first and play later pretty much as responsibilities are responsibilities and you still probably have a lot more freedom than a lot of us do in our daily lives.
 
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