Relationships and Romance

[snowintheskywithdiamonds]

Oh wow awesome I wonder what their positions on milk or water first in tea and cream and jam on scones are

I don't know that short film but am really curious about it now, I wish someone would make, like, the ultimate animated film version of Swan Lake so I could watch that... is the (I assume ballet) version on TV any good? That all sounds very nice and you have reminded me to email back various family members that I have heard from recently

Am now safe and sound at my mum's house, and feeling pretty good rly

Oh gosh I wish I could her but she passed away earlier this year sadly! I’m not from the UK personally so is the milk/cream thing an argument here? 😄

Yes Dinner for One is hilarious, it’s very old and in black and white but it’s worth a watch. It’s on YouTube 😊

True about Swan Lake - that would be epic actually! This version I’m watching is the Royal Opera Houses performance from 2018. They have a streaming service like Netflix where you can watch their shows like ballets and operas. I’m looking forward to watching it!

 

[RadFemHedonist]

Oh gosh I wish I could her but she passed away earlier this year sadly! I’m not from the UK personally so is the milk/cream thing an argument here? 😄

Yes Dinner for One is hilarious, it’s very old and in black and white but it’s worth a watch. It’s on YouTube 😊

True about Swan Lake - that would be epic actually! This version I’m watching is the Royal Opera Houses performance from 2018. They have a streaming service like Netflix where you can watch their shows like ballets and operas. I’m looking forward to watching it!

There are various jokey (well, mostly, there was that tragic but brief civil war in 1992) arguments about it here yeah, I honestly couldn't care less what other people do though I do have my own routine for such things like most I suppose - a way of doing it that I default to, however my reason for doing it that way is cuz it just seems right to me - I never bothered to check how I was "supposed" to do it according to those around me first haha

I will watch it for sure

How was the ROH 2018 version in the end?

I went to the Xmas market with my mum and it was rly nice - we didn't buy anything apart from some groceries and I gave a bit of money to someone homeless, cuz I feel like I have quite a lot of stuff already XP We also met an amazing panto dame who was utterly fabulous! I'm glad I was with my mum for Xmas and she really loved the three presents I gave her

I'm feeling pretty cheerful today and have brushed my teeth and showered, brushed my hair, and I watched some nice movies and anime/cartoons with my mum while I've been staying with her, the three of us (including her really nice lodger who's an elderly woman with loads of interesting stories and insight to offer) got a bit ill during/after Xmas but it's all good no-one's dead XP This morning I have made a playlist of happy songs that I will post in the music thread and have also been working on an art piece that I'm really excited to keep going with and eventually complete Am returning to Brighton tomorrow, how's everyone doing?

 

[Eternal chibi]

I'm in a weird place these days where part of me genuinely enjoys being single but part of me rly wants to be able to open my heart to someone in the way that one does with deep mutual love in a romantic relationship. TBH while I am a kind caring person I haven't rly been able to give my heart to anyone since my previous best friend who I had that unrequited thing for who I don't even talk to anymore... I'm not sure if a romantic relationship is right for me tbh (for one I'm not super consistent with my personal hygiene due to my depression and other health issues and I don't wanna gross a partner out and have them -understandably but heartbreakingly for me- end a relationship over it) I dunno it's like part of me feels like I'm being sentimental and am more into the idea of a romantic relationship than the reality of one but it would be lovely to find true love with someone who's heccin' beautiful inside and out one day. I'm 33 and my birthday's soon kinda feels like there's not much chance of it now though I know that's not necessarily true. At least I have made some real progress with being kinder to myself though and that has really helped me. I also am realising more how much closeness with women feels missing from my life overall. Hope y'all are doing ok and have nice holiday plans of some description

yes it sounds like self doubt here. ultimately, none of this matters, you will meet someone that is the right person.

when they are right, they like your smell, and dont care about your mess or your age or your worries or anything else, because you are yourself and that is how it is, and there is always somebody out there for who you are now

what we have to do try to meet the person that is right, and the only way to do this is put ourselves out there in the world and maximize our opportunity to encounter a person like that. And I say a person and not "the" person the reason because there are many many of them in this wide world all experiencing their own things and lots of people in the same complex struggles as one another

 

[RadFemHedonist]

TBH there's a guy I rly like I am pretty sure I have mentioned him here before - he used to live in my mum's county and has now moved up north and at one point he had feelings for me too but I messed it all up by going out with someone else who I didn't even rly like and he and I are still on good terms and talk online a lot but I just rly wish I hadn't screwed it up... I'm honestly really trying so so hard not to be so dysfunctional but I feel like whatever I can manage to change and better about myself will never be enough. This evening I told him that I'm still in love with him but I don't think he feels the same anymore... I don't think he'll end the friendship which is good tbf he's an understanding kind person but I feel bad cuz if he says he doesn't wanna be with me I will need to find someone else and that feels like a betrayal of my feelings for him/of him/of what he and I had. (I'm gonna respectfully ask that no-one here suggest that I get therapy cuz I really do not feel remotely safe seeking it for reasons that I won't disclose.) I guess I feel like I probably come off as rly flaky and like I can't commit to anything or anyone but there are reasons why I'm sometimes like that... I honestly am not trying to be like that and don't want to be and I did set myself a number of goals this year that I am determined to stick to cuz I want to feel a sense of accomplishment and have some achievements to look back on at the end of the year. So far I am meeting the targets I have set, which are:

4 anime episodes a day (doesn't matter if subbed or dubbed) (I'm waaay ahead on this have watched over 164 episodes so far this year! So will be focused primarily on the other three goals for the next few weeks)
1 book a week (1 manga volume counts as 1 book and audiobooks count as well)
1 film a week (strongly preferring ones I have not seen before or have only seen once and keep meaning to rewatch over old favourites)
1 completed picture a week (finishing pictures that I started before 2023 counts towards this goal, also as this goal was only decided on yesterday unlike the other 3 I am aiming for 50 completed pictures rather than 52)

Reminding myself of my goals has made me feel somewhat better tbh... I have this whole complex where I keep thinking I'm selfish for just like... wanting to live my life the way I choose to rather than forcing myself to find a relationship and have kids I do want a boyfriend (I def don't want kids ever) but not to the exclusion of all the other stuff I want to do and accomplish in my life like ugh I just have so many thoughts about this whole thing that I wanna get out but for now I'll just post this I think 😅

 

[RadFemHedonist]

yes it sounds like self doubt here. ultimately, none of this matters, you will meet someone that is the right person.

when they are right, they like your smell, and dont care about your mess or your age or your worries or anything else, because you are yourself and that is how it is, and there is always somebody out there for who you are now

what we have to do try to meet the person that is right, and the only way to do this is put ourselves out there in the world and maximize our opportunity to encounter a person like that. And I say a person and not "the" person the reason because there are many many of them in this wide world all experiencing their own things and lots of people in the same complex struggles as one another

Sorry I didn't mean to ignore this... thankyou for the care you put into it, it's much appreciated 🥰

 

[awadama]

@RadFemHedonist That's a very impressive number of episodes!

I wish I could get myself to be more focused on watching anime. Sometimes I get into a nice rhythm of watching three episodes a night, then I just end up not watching any at all for months and months and all the new shows are building up on Crunchyroll and all those DVDs and BDs I've amassed over the years are still taking up space and AHHHHH! 😅

 

[RadFemHedonist]

IDK who needs to hear this today but enjoy 🥰

 

[RadFemHedonist]

Still going strong with all the goals stuff - it's the 4th day of Week 8 of the year and I've already done everything for Week 9 and some of the stuff for Week 10! I also managed to grow as a person in that when I kinda started an argument with an ex that my history is very complicated with that I'd thought maybe I didn't really wanna be friends with anymore but I knew that maybe that was mostly/all due to stuff in my own head rather than anything to do with what they actually were or weren't doing or saying, I thought a lot about what to say before replying after they understandably got upset, and then actually discussed things with them instead of like, giving up, telling them to leave me alone and blocking them, and I think now that they and I understand each other a lot better and I understand more about myself as well and they and I are actually talking and our conversations are more enjoyable and organic - it's not like I constantly do this to people and nor am I saying it's always a good idea to be friends with exes, but I know for sure that I'm really glad I actually worked through things with this person and now our friendship is better - I have no desire to be with them romantically I just really value friendship a lot and I'm glad they and I are still friends partly cuz I made the choice to talk things out instead of running away - I'm proud of myself! I generally feel a lot more at peace and am enjoying my friendships and hobby goals, though I'm also stressed cuz one of my disability benefits is being reassessed and my mum's about to visit and I love her but she can be really insensitive and tactless sometimes with the things she says

 

[RadFemHedonist]

@RadFemHedonist That's a very impressive number of episodes!

I wish I could get myself to be more focused on watching anime. Sometimes I get into a nice rhythm of watching three episodes a night, then I just end up not watching any at all for months and months and all the new shows are building up on Crunchyroll and all those DVDs and BDs I've amassed over the years are still taking up space and AHHHHH! 😅

Hashtag superrelatableanimefanthings XP

I am starting with stuff that has a good dub, then when I run out of that I'll switch to subbed but two episodes a day instead of four, I'm also focusing almost exclusively on my physical disc backlog as I don't really do streaming for the most part

 

[Eternal chibi]

good effort putting time to talking to your ex

I will not lie... I could not think of anything worse!!! I would not enjoy ever seeing any single one of my ex in the street!!!

at least if it did happen they can see i am dressing better than they are jejejejeje

 

[RadFemHedonist]

I'm not ace and unsure if the person who made this is or isn't but regardless I hope I find love this deep one day romantically (there's a video in the spoiler tag that's what I'm referring to). I do have a friend who is really sweet to me like this (we have had sex but he's never made me feel like an object) and I'm really glad to have him - we're not a couple but we're very special to each other and consider each other to be like family I hope everyone here is doing ok <3

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