Thurty. THURTY!!!"30" spoonfuls of porridge or "50"? I really can't tell what you said
Thurty. THURTY!!!"30" spoonfuls of porridge or "50"? I really can't tell what you said
*Cups hand to ear*Thurty. THURTY!!!
*speaks into phone's mic*Even Google can't understand you as it is!
I'll never forget that first phone call @Neil.T I swear, I can practically hear you saying that all over again!*speaks into phone's mic*
"Oh-KAY, Goo-GULL..."
Sadly this thing happens way too much. Too many people like to pretend they’re perfect and if something goes wrong, whether it be a relationship or otherwise, it has to be someone else’s fault.Well I just found out today that this whole time since the split (back in Feb), my ex has been lying out his ass saying I cheated on him!
Total sympathy card there, his idiot gf has fell for it hook line and sinker telling anyone who'll listen on fb that her bf is amazing and he got cheated on. Makes me wonder if he cheated on me and if he lied about his ex before me to me since he's lying about me. He's demonised me since February and a load of sheeple think he's a brave hard done by person and I got witch hunted out of a lot of the con scene off the back of it all.
In the current social climate, how the sweetest, deepest layer of the interstice does everyone believe the guy in all this? A guy, if he has a reputation for it, certainly has an air of farce around him?Well I just found out today that this whole time since the split (back in Feb), my ex has been lying out his ass saying I cheated on him!
Total sympathy card there, his idiot gf has fell for it hook line and sinker telling anyone who'll listen on fb that her bf is amazing and he got cheated on. Makes me wonder if he cheated on me and if he lied about his ex before me to me since he's lying about me. He's demonised me since February and a load of sheeple think he's a brave hard done by person and I got witch hunted out of a lot of the con scene off the back of it all.
well, you can't let that be the decider for you, you could still just ignore them. I know that would be hard but people are idiots, the more you talk to deny it the more the lady doth protest too much. it's not like you'd have to see them, and well, if you do go and they keep talking about it, it's really childish of them. the ex shouldn't be playing a sympathy card now as well, he's got someone, he's got the friends, he's got the high horse, he won't keep those for long if the sympathy keeps him as a pathetic victim. I wish people were smart enough to look at what you lost and realise regardless of the truth the guy is kind of a jerk nowThey'll all be there in October though so I'm thinking I may pass on it this year.
Partnerships of equals are great in the rare instances they happen, but in the vast majority of cases there's going to be a dominant and a submissive partner
Funnily enough, one of my images I've not posted on Instagram/Deviant Art yet is based around this very thing.Some people may voluntarily take on the sub/dom roles in a relationship, but sometimes, it happens because of power struggles
Funnily enough, one of my images I've not posted on Instagram/Deviant Art yet is based around this very thing.
I'll show you it.
Like I say, the sub/dom thing is not present in all relationships but I think it is present to some degree in most. It doesn't have to be extreme, it can be quite subtle, but it's fairly easily observed in other people just say, sitting in a cafe and hearing them talk to each other.
Stubborn??! Us??I'd say Neil and I are both prettystubbornconfident and secure as individuals as well
It takes all sorts, as they say. As is probably very apparent to anyone who reads my posts, I actually really enjoy challenging and being challenged (which is interesting in terms of examining parental relationships - My parents were certainly nothing like that, in fact completely the opposite to the point where I think they were so conscious of not hurting each other they didn't want to admit when the love had gone out of their relationship) and the willingness of people to be challenging and assertive increases my respect for them. That comes with its own challenges, because I think when you meet someone you like there's a kind of automatic response of trying to play nice and not alienate or upset them, which for me is quite an unnatural façade to put on. But if I don't, it's not easy to even make friends let alone built romantic relationships. I spent too long being a salesperson and trying to put the best spin on things to get the result I wanted, I guess.Oh, I don't disagree - I've witnessed it myself from observing customers during my 5 years stint in retail; you definitely can tell who wears the pants in many cases! I guess by virtue of Neil and I also being quite strong willed individuals with minds of our own, we've just become like best friends (with the added bonus of there being something more). It also brings to mind the attachment theory, because I would imagine that patterns of behaviour from a very young age could certainly influence what an individual might end up being like later on in adult relationships, and thus determine the dynamic. Again, I say there's nothing wrong with either partner within a relationship voluntarily taking on either the sub/dom role, so long as it's consentual and both parties are happy with the arrangement. It's not for me personally, but we're all different, and every relationship is different.
That comes with its own challenges, because I think when you meet someone you like there's a kind of automatic response of trying to play nice and not alienate or upset them, which for me is quite an unnatural façade to put on.
I certainly don't see any issue with being challenging and assertive. I think this is where my point in a previous post about having respect for yourself is just as important as respecting the other person and the relationship. The way I see it, you can't love someone else unless you love yourself, and you have to be able to stand up for yourself, as well as have the curiosity to challenge; the key for me is how you go about that. You can actually do it in a respectful manner, without being hurtful or pig-headed. Unfortunately my previous partner put me on a pedestal - it's one thing to have respect and admiration for someone, but another entirely to worship the ground they walk upon and think they can do no wrong.and the willingness of people to be challenging and assertive