Well I understand why I've always hated Shinji Ikari. He sucks so bad in this. The jacking it over Asuka is so stupid and feels like it's there just to shock you. Shinji wouldn't even kiss a sleeping Asuka, I dont buy he'd react like that. Also the ending is so bleak. Why go back to strangling Asuka? Did he learn nothing during instrumentality? Also the level of self pitying he was going through throughout was annoying.
On this topic, I'm not sure I can really say anything I didn't already say in the all-purpose Eva thread. I see them as quite tonally different endings, but each have their merits. EoE, as folks here have identified, does I think make the characters stronger, but it is more cynical. I do wonder if that might have something to do with Anno’s feelings towards the audience in the wake of the TV show...Visually it was great but ultimately I prefer the way the series ended. It presented the ideas in a more interesting and thoughtful way than EoE and gives Shinji a much "happier" ending which I felt he had earned.
That's exactly the way I read that as well, and was going to say as much before you did. Should we worry, Neil? Although again, I do wonder if that might have something to do with Anno’s feelings towards the audience in the wake of the TV show...I'd say that, perhaps (trying to tap into Shinji's mindset here), standing looking at Asuka while doing that doesn't require any actual interaction with her, whereas kissing her in her sleep would have.