Communication is absolutely an important thing, not just in relationships but in society in general, and that’s why I’m willing to share my opinions even when they might risk upsetting people. There are a lot of places where that’s just not worth the bother any more because people will make assumptions about you, pigeonhole you as belonging to a particular group of people you may not agree with at all and shout you down for doing so (pretty much any social media website for example, and a fair few forums as well). At least here, and at least with you
@Rui I can find respectful discussion over disagreements, and I’m thankful for that. There needs to be more of it. I’m not here (or anywhere) to be liked*, but it’s nice when friends listen to each other even when they disagree.
People’s lives, circumstances and experiences feed into their views, and sometimes it’s not easy to change. Sometimes I think it’s near impossible - I’m not a trusting person. My first instincts are not to believe people until I can ascertain the truth myself, and in so many of these kinds of cases it is impossible for me to do so. Others are more inclined to believe people, and that’s okay too. I don’t look down on anyone for that, that’s just people being individuals with different perspectives, personalities and values.
In this particular situation, I’d still prefer to leave it to the people involved to sort out rather than weigh in - My opinions are not going to change anything. People have freedom of association and if they want to distance themseleves from Vic based on what they themselves have observed or the testimony of others that is absolutely their choice and they shouldn’t face criticism for doing so. At the same time, I’d reserve the right to not take sides in any individual encounters people have described (and genuinely so, I’m not personally a fan of Mr. Mignogna and am certainly not inclined to believe him over anyone else, but nor an I inclined to believe anyone else over him).
There’s also a world of difference for me between inappropriate behaviour and criminal acts, and the way each should be tackled. If someone is behaving inappropriately but not criminally, then it’s up the people around them to make them realise that - If they can’t then yes, by all means stop associating with them. It seems like this is what’s already happened in this case, so I’m not really understanding the need for further shaming other than for reasons of sensationalist “journalism”.
*which is just as well, this thread alone has bludgeoned my likes-to-posts ratio like nothing since the system was implemented