I agree that monotheist/atheist isn't a clean split. Agnosticism is massively common in the geeky circles I've come into contact with, usually in people raised one way who came to doubt it for whatever reason so choose to be cautious about where they place their faith in future.
I'm personally an atheist, as in I actively believe there is no god. Not to be confused with those who think there might be, nor those who refuse to commit to any beliefs at all
I don't follow other atheists though (nor Dawkins); I don't see my beliefs as an organised system and since I now believe that gods/angels/prophets/whatever don't exist in the first place, I spend little time thinking about it all these days. I find Buddhist and Tao philosophy extremely interesting, but I'd not go as far as to say I'm a follower in any religious sense. It's more that reading about different ways to see the world is quite fun.
Background on my personal situation: I was raised a Roman Catholic, went to Roman Catholic schools, had only Roman Catholic friends and was dragged through the rituals like Holy Communion and weekly Mass. I studied Latin at school in special classes and even did extra Religious Studies on top. Part of my schooling included classes in altar serving during Mass and it was at one of those where suddenly, I questioned things at last.
I sort of sound like a hardcore cult member from that summary...eheheh...
Anyway, in real life I'm the kind of person who puts 100% into everything she does, and this was no exception, so once I learned the background behind altar serving I wanted to contribute too like the boys in my class. And I was told I could not. No apology - if anything I was expected to be ashamed for having asked. No way to change it, even if I said a thousand Hail Marys every day. It was just flat out Forbidden.
Now, I'm perhaps a little stupider than most, but I really struggled to understand why possessing differently shaped genitals had anything whatsoever to do with my rights at that age. I have a relative who is a nun, so I knew women could live childless; that couldn't be the sum of it. Why was I different? It was the first time I questioned what I'd been spoonfed, and not the last.
I am aware that not all Christianity follows the same traditions as Catholicism as it's definitely one of the more strict of the branches. But once I'd realised it didn't work for me, it led to other questions with no satisfactory answers.I'd been told since birth that I had this belief in God within me but it suddenly rang false. So that was that, and before I knew it I was an atheist with a firm belief set of my own, discovered by me without overt influence from my surroundings for once.
Incidentally my partner is an agnostic and I don't feel the need to browbeat him into committing to one extreme or the other, so I won't be doing that here either. The key thing with all religion is balancing it with your respect for other human beings. I can be friends with Muslims, with Christians, with Invisible Pink Unicorn devotees, no problem. But I can't be friends with a bully no matter what fancy name they use as an excuse. People who blow other people up in the name of a god are awful, but to expand that to include all people who rely on their belief in a god to cope with life's problems is little better.
On homosexuality, I have no problems with homosexuals and see it as no different from preferring blonde partners or older partners or whatever. I don't like the majority of mainstream religions' treatment of gay people at all (usually blanket judgements that they're wrong/disgusting etc) and would rally against anyone who chose to let these attitudes affect anyone I knew outside their group. Most of those religious beliefs are probably rooted in, rather than fairness, the need for their followers to produce huge families to increase the religion's power, so that's why women are often relegated to being baby factories and anyone who deviates from the plan by refusing or by dating another of their gender is condemned. It seems more like a human corruption of the intent than something which fits into the self-professed kindness of the major religions.
Final comment! Once I was told in a serious conversation that, as a non-Christian, it was impossible for me to understand right from wrong. That always stuck with me as one of the most bizarre things I've ever heard anyone say. Thank goodness such nutcases are the minority
R