Tbf I'm a bit inconsistent, like god knows why I like Perfect Blue so much given my general distaste for violence (I mean it has a lot going for it outside of that, but the gore is def shocking!) But I can relate overall to what you said. Also, I wanna say I'm glad to have you on the forum, speaking as a mid-30-something person, I'm interested in older people's experiences with fandom generally, before DVDs and streaming and whatnot, though ofc I don't know what age it was that you got into anime. But yeah I grew up in the 90s and always found gore hard to stomach mostly, though my overall tolerance is higher for it in 2D animation, that's partly desensitisation over time as an anime fan though, like as a kid I didn't even like the Itchy and Scratchy segments in The Simpsons even though I loved the show as a whole and understand that Itchy and Scratchy is partly making a satirical point about bloodless cartoon violence... I still don't like them tbh haha XP
On that topic, you might enjoy Is the Order a Rabbit? which is very cute and bloodless but also hilarious and with some pleasing weird elements (I'm not being paid to say that lol, just trying to keep things on topic, and I do really like this week's DOTW show)
to me - we're all different tbf 
