Invisible Crane said:
Is there anything I could change on it that would improve my chances of finally finding someone...I've never ever had a GF before and OKC is my only chance right now
You seem to have gathered a lot of posts with sensible input to help improve your profile, i'm going to take another approach.
These dating websites in general never seem to work, my advice is to get yourself out there: you won't find a soulmate in a bar, you wouldn't find a soulmate in a nightclub and deffo not on dating websites, leave that to the 30+ market.
First Look at yourself in a mirror, see how you dress and the way you keep yourself (be that scruffy hair or gelled or short back and sides) if you look scruffy you lose appeal, if you speak like a chav and don't pronounce your words then you lose appeal again (nobody wants to hear you speak like the queen but just pronouncing your words and cutting out words like "init" and "coz" will benefit you)
Nobody is asking you to change your whole wardrobe or who you are fundimentally but just refining the nicer points, if your clean shaven with short hair styled with product to a degree but not like something out of jersey shore. Buy a few new t-shirts or shirts and find out what works for you; if you are weedy and beanpole like then focus on your face as it will be your selling point, wear casual colours - white or black work well with some jeans and smart footwear (so no nike air or 2 year old vans scribbled all over)
If your built like a womble then wear loose long sleeved shirts with a tshirt underneath and the sleeves rolled up the arm (reason for long sleeves rolled up rather than short sleeves means you can make a slight difference in an instant to change from laid back to smart) again jeans and comfortable but sensible footwear.
If you have put the time in to build your body and have confidence in your appearance go for V neck t shirts with jeans and sensible shoes. Again stick to colours like black or white, blue at a push, no reds, greens, oranges, yellows until you've really worked on your self esteem.
Be approachable, be polite (no prospective girlfriend wants to hear "bitch" or anything similar when being referred to) be quick thinking and pay attention to what is being said! the amount of guys staring at the chest when they should be listening is facepalm worthy. be laid back but interesting - there is a fine line between being laid back and being lazy.
Be pro-active - don't wait for them to come to you, thats not how it works for the most part, you go to them.
If there is no eye contact between you atleast 3 glances then its not worth bothering, communication is 93% non verbal 7% verbal so pay attention to the way you hold yourself, folded arms is a guarded stance it shows you are being defencive. Hands in pockets is a slobbish trait, holding your phone and pretending to text is a confidence red light, holding a beer and taking part in the conversation helps as it keeps your hands busy so you can't wave talk and if you do its held back to one hand (more acceptable) remember to be confident - you'll have that primal urge to talk to her but another part of you will say no dont move, don't talk to her. DON'T LISTEN TO YOURSELF, follow your heart not your knob or your mind trying to talk you out of it. THrow yourself in at the deep end and go say hi.
Take my advice or ignore it, i'm just posting what i've learnt through both watching others make the mistakes or myself on the odd occasion. Most blokes either have too much confidence and it plays out as self centred cockiness or not enough and they don't even push to go say hi. a nice medium always helps, so does throwing in a joke - no not a knock knock or a one liner but take something that has happened recently (not to you, the pissing yourself isn't a joke to use its a turn off) and have a laugh at it. Off the top of my head i'd say something to do with the petrol strikes; don't be offensive but it will show you care enough to pay attention to whats going on in the world.
Anyway, hopefully something i've written will help you.
