Need alittle help...

Tachi

Tachi

Mushi-shi
I'm being cyber stalked. Its starting to really get on my nerves but there's not much i think i can do about it.


The thing is, one of my ex's fancies both me and my best mate, (we both have gf's) and after a huge fall out over her stalking us on facebook, our gf's got involved and she backed off for about a week, then i'd had enough and told her where to go, cut all her ties to the large group of friends. (she wouldn't have had those friends if i hadn't of gone out with her, so they aren't exactly loyal to her)

Now after about 8 months of nothing, she's stalking again. I post on my 3 best mates facebooks and she comments in the same post directly afterwards. at first i thought it was just coincidence, but yesterday i spoke to a friend from highschool, a person who was in my tutor group who used to be a laugh, i checked her fb before hand and she'd not had any posts from the ex at all in the past however many months. Now i post once.... and the ex posts right afterwards again.

I've been told by the gf to leave it and see what she does, if she tries to become friends or what (the reason i now hate this person is because they went out of their way to lie and try and turn me and my missus against each other, for that i swore i'd never forgive her) But i'm not the sort of person who always rises above things, if something annoys me, i voice my opinion without a second thought.

Last time i spoke to her i said never to try talkint to me or any of the group again. she's not listening and trying to talk to me again through other people. so telling her where to go won't work. what would you do?
 
I'd get in touch with Facebook about it. I'm not sure how you'd go about that though since I don't think stalking qualifies as abuse; it's just creepy.
 
it's like i always say

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Stuart-says-yes said:
You could try removing her as a friend and changing your privacy setting, so the only people who can comment on your page, is the people you are already friends with.
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Ask your friends to do the same as well.
 
She's already off my friends and my fb is private for everything.

my friends have said they'll do the same, but there's over 20 of us in this group.... so as she's still friends with some of them i can't help it.

i'm just wondering if its worth doing plan b... let everyone know what she was doing with a guy whilst engaged to another guy. maybe they'll all ditch her as a friend?
 
Tachi- said:
She's already off my friends and my fb is private for everything.

my friends have said they'll do the same, but there's over 20 of us in this group.... so as she's still friends with some of them i can't help it.

i'm just wondering if its worth doing plan b... let everyone know what she was doing with a guy whilst engaged to another guy. maybe they'll all ditch her as a friend?
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There is particular extremes you shouldn't really go to i'd say, that'd be a bit much. My question would be, what does these messages she posts say exactly, since the way i see it, if they aren't exactly harming you, there is no real need to actually do anything. If she can't post on your fb, there is only so much she could say, so until the posts she makes relate directly to you, technically, she hasn't done much she isn't entitled to. I realise that may seem in defense of her, but there isn't much i can really say without actually checking the messages myself, and i'm not one to pry.
 
Okay, i've sent a strongly worded email, no swearwords. just very blunt.


She has a history of doing this with me and my best mate sam, she fancies both of us, has done for years. now one major factor to this is that she's really needy, she craves attention.

She used to post on our fb pages alot more than our gf's and we where sick of talking to her, our gf's where sick of her sending text messages to us asking for *coughs* so we stopped talking to her.

Her way of getting to us then turned to either contacting my sister OR talking to the other 2 guys in our primary group. knowing that she never speaks to my sister or the other two, she's attention seeking and trying to get to us via friends and family. she pulled out her last card last time though by emailing kayls and trying to lie to her, saying that i'd apparently text her loads ( hard to do when i deleted her number when i severed all ties and my missus checks my fone everytime were together, just randomly browses it really) She went out of her way to split me and kayls up, for that i said i'll never be friends with her again.


now whats changed over the months is, sam (best mate) has accepted her on fb as a friend again, and she's hoping that she can try and get through to me and try be friends again (shes said all this to him) but it's not happening, if anything it's pissed me off.


I hope that the email will be enough, i don't want to be the guy who's cruel enough to show her the hard way that she has no real friendships with the group.
 
Hokum said:
Is she craves attention tell her to go on 4Chan and say she is a cat murderer... Problem solved...
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Rule 44: The Internet is not your personal army.

Just tell her to stop it because it's upsetting your gf or something.
 
@ paradox, what the hell is rule 38?

And yeah i haven't had any reply to the email i sent, so fingers crossed it may have worked. time will tell.

oh and i say skikes on fb, so its a possibility he'll appear on here one random day soon.
 
Tachi- said:
oh and i say skikes on fb, so its a possibility he'll appear on here one random day soon.
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Tachi- said:
@ paradox, what the hell is rule 38?

And yeah i haven't had any reply to the email i sent, so fingers crossed it may have worked. time will tell.

oh and i say skikes on fb, so its a possibility he'll appear on here one random day soon.
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Rule 38? Uh, apparently, "No real limits apply here, not even the sky".

What is/are Skikes?
 
Paradox295 said:
Tachi- said:
@ paradox, what the hell is rule 38?

And yeah i haven't had any reply to the email i sent, so fingers crossed it may have worked. time will tell.

oh and i say skikes on fb, so its a possibility he'll appear on here one random day soon.
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Rule 38? Uh, apparently, "No real limits apply here, not even the sky".

What is/are Skikes?
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ahh okay, Id seen it on a demotivational and wondered what the hell it was.

and good question.... i'm still not sure, maybe one day you'll speak to him.
 
She's fancied you and your friend for years now? That girl has issues.

@Paradox: If Tachi has told her to quit chasing him and she hasn't stopped that, then I don't think she gives a **** about his missus' feelings, have you tried blocking her as well? If that hasn't worked then like Maxon said, report it, you shouldn't have to put up with this crap, especially if she's stirring ****.
 
Tachi- said:
She has a history of doing this with me and my best mate sam, she fancies both of us, has done for years. now one major factor to this is that she's really needy, she craves attention.
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Send her my way! ;D

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well.... as i've posted this up on here yesterday, i feel its only right to fill you all in on what happened next.

I received an email back at 00:15 this morning... basically (cutting it down alot here) " i'm not stalking you, and you may have been the one that gave me these friends, but they've stayed my friends because of my own efforts."

What followed.... was plan b.

I'd had sams gf on the fone to me, crying and saying that sam had invited this girl round his house yesterday and she made more passes at him, i learnt from sam that nothing happened and he felt sorry for her... but ended up chucking her out for making a pass at him. And that she'd been texting another one of my friends trying to ask for sex. (the 3rd guy is my mate toby, my old tutor from college, barely a year older than i am and due to get married in july.)

At this point i no longer cared in the slightest, the full emails are below (in spoiler for those that want a laugh)

Tachi:
Subject: Stop

It’s obvious what your doing. I post on someones facebook and you post right afterwards, the biggest example of this was the other day on lorraines fb page where I checked her profile before posting, you hadn’t spoken to her in over 6months, then I post. And within minutes you’ve posted afterwards. You’ve done this on bens, sams and leo’s profiles too. This message is to say STOP, I told you ill never be friends with you again. It’s well known that if you can’t speak to someone you’ve annoyed, you’ll talk to the nearest best friend or family member to get back at them. I’m surprised you haven’t posted on my sisters fb yet tbh. It’s very pathetic and a waste of time, so just accept that to me; you don’t exist anymore.

If all of this drifts over your head and you struggle to understand common sense, I’ll put this in basic terms; you sat next to my friends for years back in high school, you never spoke to each other and never knew each other until I made the mistake of going out with you. Without me you wouldn’t have them as friends right now, so stop cyber stalking and just **** off.


She replied:
I will talk to who I want, when I like. Strangely enough, I have far better things to think about than you, and what your doing on facebook. Ben, leo and sam are my friends, and if I want to comment on something, I couldn’t care less if you’ve commented first.

I may have become friends with people because of you, but I stayed friends with them all by myself.

I replied:

Wow, you have no real reasonable excuses to what I’ve said, you don’t deny being so shallow as to go to the next person available and try to annoy the first person through the second. Your nothing but a shallow, lonely, cheating bitch who can really do with ******* off before you break someone elses relationship, just because yours didn’t work out, there’s no need to actively try and break up others (this is regarding you trying to break me and kayls up and you trying to get toby to sleep with you this weekend and I know about you making a pass at sam today too). I’ve been asked by elise (sams missus) to talk to sam about you going round his house (unexpectedly) and to pass this message onto you: She hates you, I’ll add onto that with: I hate you, kayls hates you and sam…. Just finds you amusing, nothing more.

Do yourself a favour and leave him, me and my sister alone. You know your guilty of this sad attempt to get attention by any means necessary (but mainly to try and get a response by talking through other people or stalking) if you really didn’t care you wouldn’t have posted on lorraines status, you hadn’t spoken to her in nearly a year and it seems too strange for mere coincidence for you to post on her fb after I have, as I said before. This has been happing increasingly more recently. It just shows yourself to be a lonely fool who has nothing better to do than piss people off and try and break up relationships.

Matt had a lucky escape from you.

Matt, was her fiancé, who left her because she was basically torturing his mind for a year. Added to the fact he doesn’t know that she has already cheated on him before (with toby) that line was pretty much the full stop to everything ….. or so I thought.

She proceeded to text around to all my closest friends asking them if what I’d said was true. They all confirmed it and then asked her to leave them alone, I was then flurried with texts from friends saying thank you for finally saying what they all wanted to say for years.

Sam, true to form. Was the first one to get a text from her…. He reinforced everything I’d said, then said that most of the group, if given the choice would always choose me over her, mainly for the fact that I’m the complete opposite, generous with money, a good laugh, dependable and I can’t remember all of it, but that was the nail in the coffin for her. She hasn’t spoken to anyone since.

Hopefully that's the end of it, i don't really enjoy putting people in their place, but some people just can't take no for an answer.


@ spyro, trust me... you wouldn't want this crazy person lol.
 
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I still feel like I want to defend her...

It'd also be amusing if she's posting her side of the thing to a different forum.
 
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